I'm the oldest of three girls.
My two younger sisters moved to Portland from the east coast over the last three years and they have both been reinventing themselves in their careers since they arrived.
It's been inspiring to watch.
My youngest sister, who is a jack of all trades, is just about to cross the finish line for nursing school.
My middle sister, who has a Master's in education, is taking a break from teaching and started learning how to renovate houses recently.
They're both in their thirties.
They're both incredibly smart and capable women.
They're both entering new territory.
And they're both rocking these new worlds.
The thing that's been really interesting to watch has been their transitions from who they thought they were before they started these new careers to how they see themselves now.
Are they 100% confident in their fields?
Do they even know 30% of what they're going to learn in these new careers?
Are they completely sure that this next thing is THE THING for them?
But do they THINK of themselves differently from the act of pursuing them?
Even in her twenties, my middle sister was never one to do handiwork around the house.
She would often times stand by while other people did things, doing her best to "stay out the way." (her words)
Now she's refinishing floors, mudding walls, and she helped me move my dead refrigerator out of my house like a BOSS.
Midway through moving the fridge she literally stopped and looked at me and said, "What's happening to me? Am I really doing this?"
My youngest sister was always someone who could figure things out without school.
She didn't need books; she had her brain and her hands and Google.
She always figured things out.
At some point midway through her school experience, she aced a test. ACED IT.
"Can you believe it?!" She said to me. "I got the highest grade in the class!"
It's so awesome!
So what HAPPENED with my sisters to make this big shift?
[Pay attention here folks - this is important...]
They each took on a new IDENTITY.
My youngest sister BECAME a student.
My middle sister BECAME a woman who does finishing work in the trades.
And that's the key right there.
They changed how they identified themselves.
How you IDENTIFY yourself will change:
- How your present yourself to the world
- How You speak
- How You act
- Who you hang around with
- What you talk about
- What you're interested in
- And most importantly - what you think you can do
Years ago, my middle sister would have been very hesitant to help me move a fridge.
Now - she's telling me what to do (and I'm listening!)...
Years ago, my youngest sister would have balked at writing a paper a week.
This past year - NO BIG DEAL. Just par for the course for her.
It's ASTOUNDING what a change in identity will do for your confidence.
And it's even more astounding how your confidence will change your actions, and then how your ACTIONS will change your life.
Now it's YOUR turn.
What do you want to accomplish?
Do you want to lose weight?
How about thinking of yourself as an athlete or a role model or a fitness buff or one of those healthy blogger types?
Do you want to make friends?
How about thinking of yourself as an extrovert or charming or charismatic or one of those people everyone loves (therefore everyone loves them)?
Do you want to be happier?
How about thinking of yourself as someone who's incredibly optimistic or a goofball or the person who makes everyone's day?
This identity shift may feel awkward at first!
It may feel...
Like trying on a pair of new shoes at the mall...
But then, you'll get used to the FEELING of being this new person.
Of owning this new identity...
Then look out!
Your life is headed for a whole new direction.
What's your goal and what identity would you need to take on to get there?
Tell me in the comments!
You've got this!
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